Hi Friend
I have two virtual conferences coming up this month that I am producing. Both of them are on track to be absolutely fabulous. Each week I have a scheduled zoom call with both leadership teams to make sure we are consciously addressing all the specific details. Which, this may come as a surprise to you, I’m more of a big picture guy, than a little detail guy.
Yet every week it’s the minutia of particulars that I’m digging into with them. Fortunately, I LOVE IT! Not the details, but the meetings themselves. I know when you’re part of an organization, it can feel like there are an abundance of meetings. I’m aware most of the time meetings are a dreaded encounter. Yet over here in Small Business Land, we have a shortage of consistent gatherings.
To be on two teams simultaneously is joyous. Granted, Sarah, my business manager, and I talk every day about all kinds of things happening in our business, but it’s not so much a “meeting”.
I guess it’s not really the meetings themselves, as it is being part of a team with a purpose that requires multiple people laboring together to achieve a big goal. I mean, that’s fun stuff!
I had a creative hurdle this week in my business. I called a friend who is super imaginative and can ideate with the best of them. I told him my situation and he went to work brainstorming. Literally, came up with three different concepts right on the spot! They were all seed ideas, so I took them, mashed ’em together, put them through the filter I was going for and voila, came out with a solution on the other side.
Collaboration is the Best!
I’m contemplating adding a team member to Hawks Agency. I invited my friend, adviser and recruiting genius Rebecca to meet with me and the person, to bring her expertise to the conversation. I stink at hiring so having someone who can help guide me through the conversations and information is incredibly valuable.
It appears this weeks’ writing is turning into a confessional: I NEED PEOPLE.
Not in a needy sort of way, but maybe. Not in an unhealthy way, thankfully. Not in a desperate way, hopefully. However, in a very real way. It’s quite possible that I need you too, Friend.
It’s a strong phrase isn’t it? When someone “needs” us. I have been writing entirely about my professional world. Move it over to the personal and it gets even more weightier. Do you like to be needed? Do you want to be needed? Are you needed?
It’s a curious concept. We absolutely need people in our life, in many ways for many reasons. Yet often our egos will tell us the exact opposite – “you don’t need them.” Whether they disagree with us, hurt our feelings, respond unexpectedly or not provide what we wanted, our guard goes up. Have you met people who try hard not to need others? I have. They are small-hearted and small-minded.
I Need You Because…
You see things differently than I do.
You thinkdifferently than I do.
You process differently than I do.
You prioritize differently than I do.
You notice things I don’t.
You care about things I don’t.
You realize things I don’t.
I FEEL NEEDED for the same reasons. Relationships that have a healthy need for one another are the best kind. Without it, I’m less. Without you, I’m lacking. Without us, I’m missing out.
I like the word “we”. I utilize it frequently with my clients. We = A reciprocated needed relationship. We’re in it together and are dependent on each other for it to succeed. The more we’s I have in my life, the more fulfilling it is. Weeeeeeeeeeeee! 😆
Instigating Ideas
1. Who do you need in your life and have you told them lately?
2. Who needs you and how are you responding to that need?
3. Does your ego limit your willingness to be open to being needy?
4. What are needs you have right now? Who could help you meet them?
Being needy has such a negative connotation. Typically because it’s one sided and ongoing. If you have someone in your life you think is needy, it means you don’t share the same sensation. We can be conscious of the disproportion and respond respectfully.
I’m already preparing myself mentally and emotionally for when this month is over, the conferences are done and the weekly meetings are no more. I will continue on, just with different members of we and us. Thankfully you will still be here. 🙌🏼 (And if you want me to join in a weekly meeting with you, just let me know).